"Why I'll Never Marry"

[david]

I got an article of Garbo's never married in Liberty magazine April 15....here's her words:

Why are people so interested in the matrimonial status of film status of film stars? After all, the marriage is nobody's business except the two people concerned. It is strictly their private affair.
Moreover, it is damaging to a star to have the intimate details of her domestic life broadcast far and wide. It is particularly unfair (if not actually unwise for an actor who plays great-lover roles) to stress having a wife and children, no matter how he dotes on them in private.

Personally, I should hate to have my husband lose his identity. Instead, I should want to forget I had ever been Greta Garbo. With so many broken romances littered about, Hollywood is not keen to draw attention to the love affairs of its players. What chance has a marriage in these circumstances? Can you wonder that film stars hesitate to exchange single blessedness for married bliss?

The particular problem that faces the film star, however, is this: Have I the peculiar kind of genius and temperament that makes of matrimony a holy and lasting bond? Am I a fit person to be anybody's "lawful wedded wife"? Can I make success of married life? With a male star, it is different. When he marries, convention expects that his wife shall subordinate her interests to his.

How embarrrassing, on the other hand, is the situation of a non-film acting husband married to a famous film star! He is bound to lose something of his own identity. Imagine a man being known as "Mr. Garbo." In sections of society still impressed by the false glitter of the limelight, and where the spectacle of a woman who has made her own way in the world is still matter for surprise and idle chatter, this is what would surely happen.

Only a fool or a hero could abide such a position. The only good reason for two people getting married is so that they can be together most of the time. That is impossible with me so long as I remain on the screen.

A marriage contract which has to make the best of whatever is left over after the film contract has been fulfilled seems a makeshift affair. A husband needs his wife's spiritual support as well as her physical presence. Unless one marries a fellow film artist, there is little chance of this ideal union of sympathy and interests. A star's career is a whole-time job.

When I first went to Hollywood under the wing of (Swedish director) Mauritiz Stiller, I used to go to parties regularly and attend premieres. But my work began to suffer. Also, making public appearances destroys the illusion that surrounds the shadows of the silver sheet. The creative artist should be a rare and solitary spirit. Stiller's death was a great blow. He found me, an obscure artist in Sweden, and brought me to America. I worshipped him. Some say it was a love story. It was more. It was the utter devotion which only the very young can know----the adoration of a student for her teacher, of a timid girl for a master mind.

Stiller taught me how to do everything: How to eat; how to turn my head; how to express love---and hate. I studied his every whim, wish and demand. I lived my life according to the plans he laid down. He told me what to say and what to do. When Stiller died in 1928, I found myself like a ship without a rudder. I was bewildered---very lonely.

I resolutely refused to talk to reporters because I didn't know what to say.

I dropped out of the social whirl. I retired into my shell. I built a wall of repression around my real self, and I lived (and still live) behind it. In the gayest, maddest colony in the world, I became a hermit. I did not go to parties. I was too tired. I went to bed when my work was done.

Besides, I am a little self-conscious about my English. I cannot express myself well at parties. I speak haltingly. I feel awkward, shy, afraid. In Hollywood, where every tea table bristles with gossip writers, what I say might be misunderstood. So I am silent as the grave about my private affairs. Rumors fly. I am mum. My private affairs are STRICTLY private."

Thank you, read this why Garbo never married for! Love, D.L.

[david]

Hi all of you, I ask you "Do you wish to be married or single or bachelor?" I never married and had no kids, too....because I feared many things for divorce, and others! I chose to stay bachelor until I die! Like Queen Christina and Garbo, too! I had many problems with my partners and women, too! Sigh! I need true friends....I find no love at all ...very hard to find right one for my love! :-/Garbo did not find the true love with anyone but my opinion is that she trust her creator Stiller! He died so suddenly that caused her grief loss! :'(I do the same to lose my beloved many friends/partners! What do you choose?

[Fanatique]

I love the article David, thanks for sharing !

Well for my part, if you find the '' grand amour '' and if all comes like in a dream, go get marry, have kids and live happy.
If you loves someone, but youre fine with no alliances, just be partner of life.
If you choose to be single because you have many things to do, you dont want to be engage cause too many 'beautiful' men/women are with you, or many other reasons, its ok to. !

Today all its complicated and all pass so fast ! You have one life to live so go ! Whatever the choice you make ...

Me, i never had a boyfriend yet or a true friends, like you said David, so i cant trully answer now ... After all im just 14 ... I cant trully answer but that was my ideas about the subject !

Jo
xx

[garbogoblin]

Wonderful article! Do you know what year she said that?

There are times when I feel that I want to get married, and others when I don't. I'm often nervous with other people, but I also don't like being alone very much. I think if I do get married (I'm only 20 now), it would have to be with someone who really knows me and understands my anxieties. I supposed I'd want to have a relationship like GG and Stiller or George Schlee, because I lvee to feel protected and to be given guidance/advice.

[david]

;D Hi Marguerite, read my old post....you will understand why she never married...her own words!

[samebirthday]

yes, very good article (and explanation from her). Thanks for posting, David.

[Marguerite]

Thanx David

[duotheatre]

"Moreover, it is damaging to a star to have the intimate details of her domestic life broadcast far and wide. " Who uses the word , moreover in an interview?
Garbo? I doubt it. This sounds like yet another attributed to Garbo article.

[david]

Here's a paperback book "Divine Garbo" by Frederick Sands pg. 112..."Garbo never married. In 1928, when not quite twenty-three years old, she wrote from Hollywood to her friend Lars Saxson: "I think about the time when I will be able to settle down in peace at home. Then, Lasse, we will have our bachelor evenings and drinks because I will probably remain a bachelor. I cannot see myself as a wife----ugly word."

pg. 135..."Max Gumpel's daughter Laila once visited Garbo and received this advice: "Laila, promise me that you will never let money or glory rule your life. Get married and have a home and family----or you will be unhappy as I am."

But in the half century since Garbo wrote to Saxon, "I cannot see myself as a wife----ugly word," she has not changed her mind. She told me, "Not getting married was probably a mistake, but I always got scared at the last moment and ran off. At the back of my mind something always told me I would not make a good wife."

[blondevenus]

Great articles. So many questions answered. Such knowledgeable people! Thanks! <3

[david]

Interested what the book by Karen Swenson about GG and Nils Asther's proposal....page 70-71 and 205-206----"Nils Asther was also introduced to Greta around this time. They met at Dramatiska Teatern. "I didn't notice anything special about her except that she had a wonderful voice, dark, almost plaintive. She lowered her eyes and when she finally raised them I was thunderstruck. I stared, bewitched and bewildered," Asther recorded. The fascination turned into an obession and, a few days later, he got up the courage to propose to her. "Without mercy, she turned down. She said she definitely would not marry me or anyone else for that matter. She had decided to dedicate herself to her art, to film and the theater."

"In his autobiography, Nils Asther wrote about a weekend trip he took with Greta to Lake Arrowhead, northeast of Lost Angeles. Arrowhead is a man-made lake, but the mountain setting disguises its origin (a great dam prevents the annual spring thaw from being lost to the desert below). Greta and Nils, genuine Nordic spirits bound by their moods as well as their restlessness, fantasized about building "a Swedish log cabin high up on a hill, where we could withdraw from the rush of the film city." Without inspecting it in advance, Asther selected a small house in the woods surrounding Lake Arrowhead and invited Garbo to join him in inaugurating it.
After a long ride along the narrow, winding roads of the San Bernadino Mountains, they found the cabin---unfurnished. Greta slept on the floor in the downstairs parlor; Nils commiserated with the lumber in the attic. It was a confusing weekend. Asther, on the rebound from an on-again, off-again romance with Vivian Duncan (one-half of the vaudeville team of The Duncan Sisters), had determined to propose to Garbo "for the third and last time." The next evening, after a romantic walk in the moonlit woods, he did----and for the third and last time, she said no.
"To myself, I cursed Mayer because I was convinced that he restrained his stars from marrying and bringing children into the world with all the means at his disposal," the actor wrote in his memoirs. He began to quarrel with Greta, who became sad, not knowing how to put a stop to it, and their weekend ended on this bittersweet note. A year later, Greta's moody "sailor" married Vivian Duncan.
("Sailor" was a favored term for her male, usually bisexual friends. "What kind of a sailor are you?" Greta asked Wilhelm Sorensen at their first meeting. On location in Catalina with Nils Asther, she was overhead berating the actor for grabbing her so roughly. "I'm not one of your sailor friends," she reminded him.)

[nicotschka]

Thanks Dave for this article! Love it!

[ddddyyyy]

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